In traditional Chinese culture, influenced by Confucian values, emotional restraint (克制, kèzhì) is often highly regarded. Public displays of strong emotions, including crying, were historically seen as a loss of composure, especially for men. Stoicism and enduring hardship without complaint were considered virtues.
This contrasts with modern Western cultures, where open emotional expression is often encouraged as a sign of authenticity and mental health.
However, crying is perfectly acceptable and even expected in certain contexts in China. At funerals, for example, crying is a crucial way to show respect and filial piety for the deceased. In private, among family and close friends, expressing sadness through tears is understood and accepted.
The concept of “crying out one's grievances” (哭诉, kūsù) is also deeply rooted, where crying can be a tool to gain sympathy and highlight injustice. While public stoicism is the default, a dramatic public cry can be a powerful social statement.